In fact, most Chinese men do not choose their wives carefully. By the time they realize this, their lives may already be a mess. Because most men, when choosing a partner, often focus on some very superficial traits. For example, they might consider whether the girl is pretty enough, whether she is gentle enough, if she will act cute in a relationship, whether she dresses elegantly on dates, and if the photos she posts in her social circle have a good atmosphere. They might even worry about whether she can cook or take care of others. In fact, these are all superficial skills, and any girl with a little cunning can play these roles.

But these are some of the most unreliable criteria for judging a partner. If you want to simply fall in love, you may be able to have a good time, but if you want to live together for decades, you must look deeper. Because the essence of choosing a wife is not only to choose a lover for yourself, but to choose a mother for your future children, a daughter-in-law for your parents, and a life and death partner for the rest of your life. In fact, choosing the right wife directly determines the quality of a man's life. In fact, if you choose the wrong person for marriage, you are working hard outside, and he will tear down the stage behind his back. When your parents were sick, she looked on coldly. When you educate your child, she leaves it alone, and the whole family will be dragged into the quagmire.

Therefore, when choosing a wife, you must not only look at the feeling, but also look at three points. First of all, the first thing to look at is her cognition and pattern, and the second is to look at her emotional control. Because of an emotionally unstable woman, she will be the destruction of a family. The third depends on the way he gets along with his parents. If you stretch the entire timeline to 30 years, you will understand that a woman's sobriety, tenacity, and emotional stability are 100 times more precious than those so-called coquettish and beautiful faces. Maybe she won't talk about love through black silk, and she won't give you phone porridge at three o'clock in the morning, but she can not complain when you are at a low point, understand proportions when you encounter temptation, talk about methods when educating children, and have rules when managing money, which is much more valuable than those vain gentleness.

Most men indulge in the illusion of being worshipped, but ignore the true survival wisdom of women, and often end up being stabbed all over the body by those so-called gentle knives. You must know that marriage is never a game between two people, you can understand when you look at the marriages that were disrupted by the father-in-law and mother-in-law, and the families that were dragged down by Voldemort, even if he was obedient before marriage. But as long as you have a patriarchal mother-in-law, or a gambler brother, no matter how good your life is, you can live a bottomless pit. It's a pity that most men can't understand this set when they are young, when your hormones go up, you think that Zhen Ai can overcome everything, and you don't wake up until you are bent over by the bride price RV, your patience is worn out by heaven, and you are calculated to empty your family, at this time, in fact, the golden period of your career has passed, your parents' savings are gone, and your child's personality is crooked.

A truly good marriage is when two mentally mature adults, coming from clean families, entrust their backs to each other and fight side by side. It's about doing the accounts together when the mortgage is pressing down, and being able to take turns caring for children when the elderly are hospitalized; you two can unite on the front line during the rebellious phase of the children. Those who are constantly entangled in whether his face is good-looking enough, his legs long enough, or his voice pleasant enough often end up being the casualties of marriage.