Nobody will fall in love with you just because you can cook, nor will they be obsessed with you because you have a stable job and know how to do housework. A few days ago, one of my students told me: "Teacher, I'm very family-oriented and thoughtful, and my job is stable too, so why doesn't he have any feelings for me?" Many men make a mistake when building their own value—they focus entirely on altruistic attributes: being considerate and family-oriented, having good education, being able to help children with homework in the future.